Thursday, July 9, 2009

6 Rules of Relationships

There is not sure formula for a happy relationship. The success of the relationship is dependent on the people in it. A relationship defines the moral fiber of the people involved and magnifies not the individual but their shared characteristics. Although there are no absolute ingredients that will make a relationship lasting, there are some rules that will help guide you before engaging in any relationship.

1. Relationships are never limited. A happy relationship does not mean that you continue to stay together even if it taking away the best of you. A happy relationship is self-nurturing, brings out your best potential and unselfish. One must not treat every relationship as their last hope. It should be enjoyed.

2. Realize that you are a person with individuality. You must not make your life depend on your partner. A relationship must be shared together and not become the basis of your existence. Retain your self and never lose it in the course of the whole relationship.

3. Study your relationship patterns. Do not be stuck in choosing the same kind of person over and over again. Evaluate past relationships and identify what went wrong. Some qualities may not be right for you. Choose the person wisely and be in love for the right reasons.

4. Do not hide your feelings. Develop open communication. It is the only way to ensure you do not get into misunderstandings. Be vocal but tactful in expressing your feelings and at the same time be sensitive to your partner's

5. Be wary of the signs. True and Fake affection are easy to perceive. If your partner shows signs of not being true, do not be afraid to confront the truth. It might save you weeks, months or even years of misery.

6. Accept that not all relationships last. There will be times when you might encounter a failed relationship. Cry and be over with it. Do not over indulge in your misery but instead move on. Use the experience and knowledge that you gathered in your past to do better the next time.

Should You Stay Or Go? 3 Signs it Might Be Time to Let Go of a Relationship

Most people go into relationships hoping for a union that will be mutually loving, caring, and fulfilling. For two emotionally balanced people who have respect, commitment, and communication with one another, this is a reasonable result. However, there are situations where one or both parties have personal issues or problems that cause destruction in the relationship, and cause it to become toxic. Here are 3 signs that the problems run so deep it may be time to consider ending the relationship:

1. Your partner is abusive toward you in any way. This includes physical abuse, which is very dangerous. If this is occurring, get help from a domestic violence shelter or counselor who specializes in this kind of issue. Leaving can be a dangerous time and professional guidance is must. If you are experiencing emotional abuse, which is criticism and controlling behavior that causes feelings of worthlessness, inferiority, and even worries about mental sanity, this is damaging as well. Over time it can lead to lowered self esteem and depression.

2. Your partner has an addiction that he or she in unwilling to deal with or get treatment for. It is very difficult to manage in this situation. You are likely to be tempted to try to help or rescue your partner from the consequences of his or her using of substances, but this only reinforces the disfunction. Your partner will not take responsibility if you are doing it for him or her. Unfortunately, your partner is likely to be focused on the next high rather than in being fully present in your relationship. In addition, you face possible consequences such as legal or financial issues as result of DUI's or accidents while using.

3. Your partner persists in a pattern of affairs and infidelity. An affair doesn't have to mean the end, but both partners need to recommit and improve communication and accountability to repair the relationship. If the infidelity continues or proves to be a pattern, there is no foundation to build any trust or honest relationship upon.